Post by Kira Darling on Mar 15, 2016 15:21:33 GMT
Not long ago I went to my sister's house to just hang out. She and her wife are pretty awesome! I love them both and for more reasons that just because they are family. First, a little background.
As I was getting ready to go their place, my wife, who is struggling with a lot of issues about me being Trans, started asking why I "had to get ready" to go see them. She even insinuated that I was "showing off" around my sister by getting ready. It was honestly a strange question to me. I picked out a cute outfit, fixed my hair, applied my makeup, and I was ready to go!
I didn't understand why I had to explain "getting ready" to go out. I was just getting ready, same as anyone! I just wanted to look and feel good about myself. And I don't get to dress as Kira when I'm with my wife. She isn't comfortable with that yet. So when I go out by myself, I go out in style. It's the only time I can literally dress as I want and be myself. I'm not concerned with public perception like my wife seems to be.
So, I went to my sister's house, and guess what? We didn't talk about my appearance. We didn't talk about my makeup. We didn't talk about my breast forms. We didn't "avoid" the subject, but it didn't come up either.
It was AMAZING! I don't mind talking about myself and answering questions, but it's SO NICE to be myself and that be the end of it: to just live my life and not have everything constantly be about my transition.
That's why I love my sister and her wife more than just because they're family. They allow me to be myself and not spend every minute talking about my transition. I get to be myself and just go about my day as I am. If you're ever experienced this, it's amazing. :-)
As I was getting ready to go their place, my wife, who is struggling with a lot of issues about me being Trans, started asking why I "had to get ready" to go see them. She even insinuated that I was "showing off" around my sister by getting ready. It was honestly a strange question to me. I picked out a cute outfit, fixed my hair, applied my makeup, and I was ready to go!
I didn't understand why I had to explain "getting ready" to go out. I was just getting ready, same as anyone! I just wanted to look and feel good about myself. And I don't get to dress as Kira when I'm with my wife. She isn't comfortable with that yet. So when I go out by myself, I go out in style. It's the only time I can literally dress as I want and be myself. I'm not concerned with public perception like my wife seems to be.
So, I went to my sister's house, and guess what? We didn't talk about my appearance. We didn't talk about my makeup. We didn't talk about my breast forms. We didn't "avoid" the subject, but it didn't come up either.
It was AMAZING! I don't mind talking about myself and answering questions, but it's SO NICE to be myself and that be the end of it: to just live my life and not have everything constantly be about my transition.
That's why I love my sister and her wife more than just because they're family. They allow me to be myself and not spend every minute talking about my transition. I get to be myself and just go about my day as I am. If you're ever experienced this, it's amazing. :-)